Hello and a warm welcome to each of you.
At times it can be really hard to live in this world, and to continue to make a relationship work through the complex ups-and-downs of life. It may be that your relationship feels stuck, difficult, or not quite what you hoped it would be. Or perhaps something has happened in your lives that you don't know how to navigate - such as a bereavement, increased conflict, or relational betrayal.
My role is to help each of you to hold your relationship as central - to reach a place where you both feel empowered to make choices that work for you as individuals within your relationship.
My hope is that together, we can build enough safety for you to bring your whole selves - the parts of you that you like, and those parts that are harder to show. Through this, my intention is to support you in developing and/or rediscovering a fulfilling and meaningful relationship together.
I also respect that humans grow and change through time. Where necessary, I will also support you navigate complex endings, ensuring that you can say goodbye to your relationship in a way that feels holding, safe, and amicable.
I am inclusive of all relationship structures and gender, sexual, erotic, and relationship diversity within my work.
Take good care,
Toni
If you don's see your particular worries listed here, please reach out anyway. I will do my best to support you, including signposting you to trusted colleagues if that would be helpful.
echoes of childhood wounds, attachment styles, generational trauma, inherited scripts and rules, internalised belief systems, ghosts of past relationships
communication difficulties, recurring arguments, sex and intimacy, parenting, blended families, intercultural relationships, boundaries
big decision making, infidelity, betrayal, divorce, separation, ENMs and polyamory, endings, terminal diagnosis, illness, grief, loss, endings
I am integratively trained which means that I draw on a number of therapy theories and models, to be able to best support you and your relationship.
My main integrations include Existentialism, Gestalt, and Relational Psychoanalysis.
I am passionate about practicing in a welcoming and accessible way meaning that I offer other opportunities to express yourselves including creativity (ie. drawing, games, cards, movement, imagery, objects, music, and so on)
Integrative therapy draws on different approaches to be able to meet your unique needs rather than assuming that one particular therapy modality is appropriate for everyone
Existential therapy recognises that we are all living with big questions and inevitable experiences. This approach helps to explore meaning, choice, agency and uncertainty. The focus in this therapy is to help you navigate life's givens, and support you to live authentically as your whole self
Gestalt is the German word for "whole" - it's a therapy approach that focuses on the whole of you - the parts you know well, and the more hidden parts of you. This approach focuses on your here-and-now experiences - how you think, feel and act in each moment.
This type of therapy focuses on how our relationships (past and present) shape who we are - whether that's family, friends, systems, cultures, institutions etc.
With this approach, there is a focus on our relationship with each other too.
I recognise that sometimes words might not be enough to capture our experience. Therefore, I might offer things like drawing, writing, imagery, movement, objects, or play as another way of exploring and working together. This is always invitational and not an obligation.
We’ll work in a way that feels right for you — sometimes through talking, sometimes by gently noticing what’s happening in the moment, and sometimes using creative tools when words are hard to find. I draw on different approaches depending on what you and your relationship needs at the time.
We will discuss this together to see what feels helpful, comfortable and appropriate for each of you within the relationship.
However, my general suggestion is that we structure the sessions as follows. This allows for relational work, personal check-ins, support to bring material into the group, and a chance to monitor progress:
JOINT SESSION - an introduction to what's bringing you to therapy
A 1:1 SESSION EACH - a check in to see how each of you feels about the work, and if there is anything in particular you want or need from me in the therapy
SERIES OF JOINT SESSIONS - I usually suggest between 3 and 5 joint sessions working altogether on your intentions for therapy
1:1s - I would suggest we have regular individual sessions to monitor your experience of the therapy, and to allow you space to reflect privately on the work. You can also share direct feedback with me about how you're experiencing the therapy and what you might want/need from me to help you in your relationship therapy goals
We would then repeat this cycle as needed, at a frequency that works for you.
I offer both short term and open-ended relationship therapy.
My working timetable is flexible across daytimes and evenings. Get in touch to explore our mutual availability.
Please note: it is rare that I am able to take an unscheduled call. Do leave a voicemail and I will come back to you.